Finding Myself in the Company of Misery

not wanting me
the beginning of me
wanting myself
thank you”
― Nayyirah Waheed

You do yourself such a disservice when you don’t take the time to find yourself.

Think about it; You spend a good chunk of your life being heavily influenced and taught by others. They teach you good and bad habits, and you are influenced by your peers around you. Most of the time, we are convinced that we aren’t being influenced by anyone. We think we are in control when actually there is nothing about us that truly is.

Which is why it is so important to take the time to do it.

To truly figure out what you love and what you love to do.

For me, I just started to maybe a year ago.

When I found myself in one of my low periods. I was convinced that I couldn’t do anything because I had no money. But really I didn’t do anything because I wasn’t really trying to.

I knew things I wanted to pursue, but I never tried to figure out how to get them done.

So I made a list.

I made a list of everything that made me happy. Whether it was things to do or clothes to wear. Pinterest was my best friend. I found myself staying up late at night just saving ideas. Things I found myself saving more then once were put on my list. This helped with passing fancies.

My list:

  1. Overalls
  2. Dreads
  3. Glitter
  4. Photography
  5. Nose Piercing
  6. Colorful Hair
  7. Blogging
  8. Seeing New Places
  9. VW Vans
  10. Tiny Houses

These are the things that I love.

I took the time out of what I thought was a too busy life to figure this out. I put on glitter every day, because it makes me happy. My overalls get worn so much more then my other pants because it makes me happy.

See the trend?

Take the time to find yourself.

I know it sounds cliche, but you really only get one life to live. It makes no sense to live it how others do, when it doesn’t make you truly happy.

Sit down, make a list. Change the list. Scratch the whole thing and make a new one. Whatever it takes.

As the great Dr. Seuss would say,

“Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”
― Dr. SeussHappy Birthday to You!



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  1. Such a beautiful idea, I need to make a list of my favorite things too. It is time to live happily.

  2. I’m definitely still trying to find myself, but I agree, you really are doing yourself a disservice if you don’t make that a priority. It can be a tough road, but the journey is worth it!


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